Article Presented by:
Copyright © 2009 Donny Prentice
If you suspect a spouse of cheating, chances are really good that your instincts are correct. It is not uncommon for friends and family to attempt to dismiss your suspicions as an overactive imagination.
Unless you have "control" issues - a desire and inability to control another person - then you should always trust your instincts. I do know that people, who suffer "control" issues, often suffer from low self-esteem and have insecurity issues. It has also been my observation that many people who are "control freaks" are usually the first to stray from a marriage, and their concern about a spouse is often the result of a guilty conscience.
You know, better than a stranger ever would, if you are suspicious of another due to a guilty conscience or for other reasons.
Understanding The Reasons For Your Suspicions
Most often, when a spouse begins to suspect the other is cheating, it is because they have detected some hidden activities or expenditures.
When a husband is going out with the guys or a wife is going out with the girls, and neither the guys nor girls are ever identified by name, then chances are that there is some kind of activity that is being hidden from a spouse.
If your spouse is going out with friends, but will not say whom the friends are or where they are going, there is good reason to suspect a hidden activity. If you press for details and details are not forthcoming, then there is something afoot that is being hidden.
Most cheaters know that their friends do not want to lie for them, so he never says that he is going out with Jeff or Dan, and she will not say that she is going out with Lucy or Janet.
When asked where he is going, he might say he is going to shoot pool, but he will never say where he is planning to shoot pool. She might say that she is going out for a drink with the girls, but she will never say where she is going to get that drink.
Why are the details of the evenings' activities being hidden? Simple enough. If he or she offers details about an activity, then you could check up on their story and catch them in a lie.
A spouse committed to a relationship is not interested in hiding anything from anyone.
Hidden Spending
Hidden expenses generally fall the same way. If you notice an odd expenditure that a spouse is unwilling to explain with much detail, then the spouse may be trying to hide something. Not always though - so be careful here. There was a time when I had an expenditure that I sought to hide from my spouse. She was really annoyed by me spending $200 and not telling her why I spent the money. But when our anniversary arrived, all was forgiven.
Most cheaters pay for their extracurricular activities with cash, but the brazen cheater will spend money on a debit card or credit card. Here it is important to pay attention to changes in spending habits. If he or she is suddenly spending more money than usual at places where money has never been spent before, then something may be afoot.
Even if spending cash, you can keep track of amount of money being spent by your spouse. You have an idea of how much cash your spouse carries, and will be able to note when your spouse suddenly needs more money to carry than usual.
When cash is running short, most people will sit down and draw out their budget to see where they are spending money. If you find yourself short on cash, and you wonder what your spouse is doing with all of that money, sit down and draw up a budget sheet, to get an idea of how much money they cannot or will not account for to you.
Time And Money
As a general rule, the easiest way to expose a cheat is by monitoring time and money. If there are any gaps in either time or money, seek an explanation. If an explanation comes, seek details.
Fewer verifiable details should generally be viewed as suspicious. If you know who his or her friends are, call his friends when he or she is "out with friends". By calling and asking to speak with him or her, you will know which friends he or she is not with that evening. Through a process of elimination, you can get closer to the truth.
You don't want to be seen as checking up on them, so make sure you have a real "reason" to call and talk to him or her.
If he or she has his or her own cell phone, calling the friends could backfire on you, so do be careful.
Other Ideas To Catch A Cheater
If you have discretionary income, you might be able to invest in GPS tracking tools that can be placed somewhere inside of your spouse's car, and with today's technology, you can monitor most any GPS tracking tools on the Internet.
A quick search on Google for "spy tools" will tip you off to a full range of technology and products that can be used to "spy" on your spouse and catch a cheat in the act.
If you don't want to do the dirty work yourself, you can always hire a private investigator to help you find the evidence of a cheating spouse. If you are interested in using a private investigator, visit our website to find information about an infidelity investigator, who specializes in catching cheaters in the online and offline world.
Never Tip Your Hand Until You Have The Goods
The final advice I wish to pass on is that you should never ever tip your hand that you are suspicious, until which time you have proof that will stand up in a court of law.
Having a cheating spouse will always encourage the judge to take your side in a court of law. But accusations of cheating are not enough to sway a judge into your favor - you need proof. So it is essential to get proof, before your cheating spouse realizes that you are suspicious of him or her.
About the Author:
Donny Prentice writes about divorce and relationships. To find out more specific advice about how to catch a cheating spouse, visit our website. If you are looking for advice to help you through the divorce process, our website provides helpful divorce advice for both men and women, facing divorce: http://www.divorcethinktank.com/blog/
Monday, December 14, 2009
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Do You Really Want Your Site on Page One of Google?
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Copyright © 2009 Paul Marshall
Do you really want your website on page one of Google for your chosen keyword phrase(s)? What do you want your online marketing campaign to accomplish for you?
I asked a potential new SEO Coaching client that first question last week. From my end of the phone call, it sounded as if he almost fell out of his chair!
I followed up by asking him if he could ever think of ANY reason for his website pages NOT to be found on page 1 in the Google SERPs (search engine results pages).
How 'bout you? Can you think of any reasons you'd NOT want your pages to be found for your targeted keyword phrases on page 1?
Keep in mind, I'm talking about your chosen keyword search phrases.
I can think of at least 3 reasons. Maybe you can come up with some of your own.
Is There Commercial Intent?
Let's say you have not just a page 1 Google result, but you're actually the first result. Here is an important question for you to ask yourself.
What is the commercial intent of this keyword phrase? Do the words contained in the keyword phrase give any indication of someone getting ready to spend money on a product or service like you offer?
For instance, compare these keyword phrases: Keyword Research, Keyword Research Specialist and Keyword Research Consultant. The latter 2 phrases give an indication of someone who is getting ready to spend money.
You can also Google the Microsoft Commercial Intent Tool and consider its' results when evaluating your keyword search phrase choices.
If you are targeting a keyword phrase that has questionable commercial intention at best, is there any reason to really be found on page 1? Wouldn't it be better to target more appropriate phrases instead?
If there's no commercial intent, how does that help your online marketing?
Can you see where I'm going?
How Much Traffic Really Matters
Now, I'm giving you a choice: you can have a first page result (with commercial intent) and your position number is 4.
Your other choice is a different keyword search phrase with a second page result, position number 12, also with commercial intent.
So, the choice is obvious?
Well, I forgot to give you the rest of the details.
The first page choice has monthly search queries for its' phrase of 3,240.
The second page result choice has monthly search queries for its' phrase of 22,167.
Do you still believe that the best choice in this example is the first page result?
According to numbers from Aaron Wall's site, approximately 6% of search users will click on that number 4 result in Google. That's 194 visitors in a month.
This is figuring average title and description tags of typical online marketing ability to convert to a click. "Your mileage may vary."
And for that second choice, the second page result? Over 1% should click on the search result, but let's use just 1%. That's 222 visitors per month.
Last time I checked, 222 is more than 194, so the second page result trumps the first page result, because the second page result has much more traffic than can convert to a transaction.
How Many Google AdWords Ads Show For Your Chosen Keyword?
If you don't see many AdWords ads, this should be a warning!
One of 2 problems exist (or both):
1. There isn't enough traffic for AdWords advertisers to target the phrase.
2. There isn't commercial viability for the phrase.
Either way, is a first page result going to help you? Probably not.
The Value Of A Committed Searcher
Want a recipe to waste your time (or your employees')?
Get a first page result in Google for your keyword search phrase and place your toll-free phone number in big numbers on the top right of each of your Web pages.
People clicking the first result in the SERPs are often less serious than those who go through the first few results or who continue searching onto the second page.
There may be something to be said for avoiding people who almost randomly click the first result and who may have impulse control "issues".
Now, if you have a large staff to answer your incoming phone calls AND if your conversion rate from those calls is strong, then the potential problem I described probably isn't a problem for your business.
On the other hand, if you are a solo professional, this strategy can be hazardous!
How are you going to perform your paid work when you get "Internet lookiloos" asking you questions they could get answered, if they would simply read a few words on your website?
Are these the best potential clients for your services or products and the best use of your time?
A second page result could bring you more serious potential customers, people who might be more likely to actually READ your website content, understand your products or services better and who might be more likely to convert to a transaction.
It's sure something to think about. :-)
Don't get me wrong. I'm not against first page rankings for your online marketing. I'm just for thinking a little further down the road than JUST first page rankings.
About the Author:
Marketing online since 2004, Paul Marshall can help you market on a budget. He's a Marketing Consultant offering marketing services (and d-i-y Coaching). You can learn more about Paul Marshall on his LinkedIn profile page and at Strategic Web Marketing.net.
Read more of Paul Marshall's articles.
Copyright © 2009 Paul Marshall
Do you really want your website on page one of Google for your chosen keyword phrase(s)? What do you want your online marketing campaign to accomplish for you?
I asked a potential new SEO Coaching client that first question last week. From my end of the phone call, it sounded as if he almost fell out of his chair!
I followed up by asking him if he could ever think of ANY reason for his website pages NOT to be found on page 1 in the Google SERPs (search engine results pages).
How 'bout you? Can you think of any reasons you'd NOT want your pages to be found for your targeted keyword phrases on page 1?
Keep in mind, I'm talking about your chosen keyword search phrases.
I can think of at least 3 reasons. Maybe you can come up with some of your own.
Is There Commercial Intent?
Let's say you have not just a page 1 Google result, but you're actually the first result. Here is an important question for you to ask yourself.
What is the commercial intent of this keyword phrase? Do the words contained in the keyword phrase give any indication of someone getting ready to spend money on a product or service like you offer?
For instance, compare these keyword phrases: Keyword Research, Keyword Research Specialist and Keyword Research Consultant. The latter 2 phrases give an indication of someone who is getting ready to spend money.
You can also Google the Microsoft Commercial Intent Tool and consider its' results when evaluating your keyword search phrase choices.
If you are targeting a keyword phrase that has questionable commercial intention at best, is there any reason to really be found on page 1? Wouldn't it be better to target more appropriate phrases instead?
If there's no commercial intent, how does that help your online marketing?
Can you see where I'm going?
How Much Traffic Really Matters
Now, I'm giving you a choice: you can have a first page result (with commercial intent) and your position number is 4.
Your other choice is a different keyword search phrase with a second page result, position number 12, also with commercial intent.
So, the choice is obvious?
Well, I forgot to give you the rest of the details.
The first page choice has monthly search queries for its' phrase of 3,240.
The second page result choice has monthly search queries for its' phrase of 22,167.
Do you still believe that the best choice in this example is the first page result?
According to numbers from Aaron Wall's site, approximately 6% of search users will click on that number 4 result in Google. That's 194 visitors in a month.
This is figuring average title and description tags of typical online marketing ability to convert to a click. "Your mileage may vary."
And for that second choice, the second page result? Over 1% should click on the search result, but let's use just 1%. That's 222 visitors per month.
Last time I checked, 222 is more than 194, so the second page result trumps the first page result, because the second page result has much more traffic than can convert to a transaction.
How Many Google AdWords Ads Show For Your Chosen Keyword?
If you don't see many AdWords ads, this should be a warning!
One of 2 problems exist (or both):
1. There isn't enough traffic for AdWords advertisers to target the phrase.
2. There isn't commercial viability for the phrase.
Either way, is a first page result going to help you? Probably not.
The Value Of A Committed Searcher
Want a recipe to waste your time (or your employees')?
Get a first page result in Google for your keyword search phrase and place your toll-free phone number in big numbers on the top right of each of your Web pages.
People clicking the first result in the SERPs are often less serious than those who go through the first few results or who continue searching onto the second page.
There may be something to be said for avoiding people who almost randomly click the first result and who may have impulse control "issues".
Now, if you have a large staff to answer your incoming phone calls AND if your conversion rate from those calls is strong, then the potential problem I described probably isn't a problem for your business.
On the other hand, if you are a solo professional, this strategy can be hazardous!
How are you going to perform your paid work when you get "Internet lookiloos" asking you questions they could get answered, if they would simply read a few words on your website?
Are these the best potential clients for your services or products and the best use of your time?
A second page result could bring you more serious potential customers, people who might be more likely to actually READ your website content, understand your products or services better and who might be more likely to convert to a transaction.
It's sure something to think about. :-)
Don't get me wrong. I'm not against first page rankings for your online marketing. I'm just for thinking a little further down the road than JUST first page rankings.
About the Author:
Marketing online since 2004, Paul Marshall can help you market on a budget. He's a Marketing Consultant offering marketing services (and d-i-y Coaching). You can learn more about Paul Marshall on his LinkedIn profile page and at Strategic Web Marketing.net.
Read more of Paul Marshall's articles.
Online Dating Is Easy, But Successful Relationships Require Hard Work
Article Presented by:
Copyright © 2009 Denice Ritter
My nineteenth anniversary will be here in a week and a half.
So what's so exceptional about that in Mormon Utah? Just this: I have a mail-order husband. He has a mail-order bride.
Nineteen years ago, there weren't any dating sites online; in fact, there wasn't any online to put them on.
So I bought a copy of the Mensa directory and went systematically through every male in the book, looking at the coded information for men within five years one way or the other of my age, widowed or divorced (because a man who is 40 and has never married has something wrong with him), shared my religion, shared at least three interests, and was in biorhythm sync with me at lest half the time.
I wound up with ten names.
I prepared letters to each of them and, despite my fourteen-year-old daughter's "Mom, you're not going to MAIL those letters. MOM, you're not going to mail those letters. Mom, you're NOT going to mail those letters," I mailed them.
I got four responses: a gay man, a man who had been excommunicated for being caught in bed with his sister-in-law, a teacher who had been in the Peace Corps in Africa and wanted to go back to Africa and "Gee, you must make a lot of money writing mysteries." The fourth was Tom.
I sat down in the living room laughing as I read the letter from Tom.
When my father asked what was so funny, I said, "Daddy, I think I'm going to marry this man."
Ten years ago online dating services still weren't available.
But my favorite college student, out of all the students I taught, met a man from Australia on a science fiction website. They were married five months later. Heidi moved to Australia and so far, has lived happily ever after. I met her husband a few months ago, and I think she's going to continue to live happily ever after.
Two years ago, online dating services were going great guns. A neighbor of ours, getting ready to move to Alaska and knowing the male-female ratio there, signed up for the dating service. He and his bride headed for Alaska two weeks after getting married and are still there.
What do I think of online dating services? I think good ones are great.
I often hear people say "I fell in love at first sight." But they didn't. What they fell into was lust. Good arranged marriages during Medieval and Renaissance times worked better than most marriages spawned in our modern age - online or offline.
A good dating service can do just what I did, only a lot faster because it can use the computer. It can match people for what they identify as important to them. It can screen out pairs that look surface compatible, but have underlying incompatibilities.
When Tom and I married, we were not yet in love with each other. But we knew that we had enough things in common that we could build a workable marriage. That is what we did, and we grow more in love with each other every day.
An online dating service can't provide someone you can love at first sight, but it can provide someone with whom you have enough in common that you can build a workable marriage. You just have to do the work.
About the Author:
Denice Ritter lives with her husband Tom in Utah. She teaches at the local college and writes freelance in her spare time. If you are looking for online adult dating opportunities, she recommends the website: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
Read more of Denice Ritter's articles.
Copyright © 2009 Denice Ritter
My nineteenth anniversary will be here in a week and a half.
So what's so exceptional about that in Mormon Utah? Just this: I have a mail-order husband. He has a mail-order bride.
Nineteen years ago, there weren't any dating sites online; in fact, there wasn't any online to put them on.
So I bought a copy of the Mensa directory and went systematically through every male in the book, looking at the coded information for men within five years one way or the other of my age, widowed or divorced (because a man who is 40 and has never married has something wrong with him), shared my religion, shared at least three interests, and was in biorhythm sync with me at lest half the time.
I wound up with ten names.
I prepared letters to each of them and, despite my fourteen-year-old daughter's "Mom, you're not going to MAIL those letters. MOM, you're not going to mail those letters. Mom, you're NOT going to mail those letters," I mailed them.
I got four responses: a gay man, a man who had been excommunicated for being caught in bed with his sister-in-law, a teacher who had been in the Peace Corps in Africa and wanted to go back to Africa and "Gee, you must make a lot of money writing mysteries." The fourth was Tom.
I sat down in the living room laughing as I read the letter from Tom.
When my father asked what was so funny, I said, "Daddy, I think I'm going to marry this man."
Ten years ago online dating services still weren't available.
But my favorite college student, out of all the students I taught, met a man from Australia on a science fiction website. They were married five months later. Heidi moved to Australia and so far, has lived happily ever after. I met her husband a few months ago, and I think she's going to continue to live happily ever after.
Two years ago, online dating services were going great guns. A neighbor of ours, getting ready to move to Alaska and knowing the male-female ratio there, signed up for the dating service. He and his bride headed for Alaska two weeks after getting married and are still there.
What do I think of online dating services? I think good ones are great.
I often hear people say "I fell in love at first sight." But they didn't. What they fell into was lust. Good arranged marriages during Medieval and Renaissance times worked better than most marriages spawned in our modern age - online or offline.
A good dating service can do just what I did, only a lot faster because it can use the computer. It can match people for what they identify as important to them. It can screen out pairs that look surface compatible, but have underlying incompatibilities.
When Tom and I married, we were not yet in love with each other. But we knew that we had enough things in common that we could build a workable marriage. That is what we did, and we grow more in love with each other every day.
An online dating service can't provide someone you can love at first sight, but it can provide someone with whom you have enough in common that you can build a workable marriage. You just have to do the work.
About the Author:
Denice Ritter lives with her husband Tom in Utah. She teaches at the local college and writes freelance in her spare time. If you are looking for online adult dating opportunities, she recommends the website: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
Read more of Denice Ritter's articles.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Increase Your Online Dating Success By Including The Most Appropriate Photos
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Copyright © 2009 Kandice Skaggs
Because so many people are using dating sites now, it is hard to stand out in a crowd.
You need to get the other viewers' attention in less than 10 seconds. You have to grab it. Because people are so visual, a photo is essential.
A photograph may be optional in order to set up a profile, but typing your life story is not going to get you anywhere if no one looks at your profile. If anything, you should have the photo up first, before anything else.
Most sites have an option where the people browsing profiles can check a box indicating they only want to see profiles with photos.
Just as in real life, first impressions count. Your primary photo should be taken in good lighting and really show your face. Take off the hat and sunglasses and don't stare into the sun. Look directly into the camera. Don't duck your head down or turn in profile.
Some people advise black and white photos. This can cover up some minor flaws in your complexion and make you look mysterious and intellectual. Black and white photos can fall flat if they are out of focus, however. Besides, most people prefer color photos.
Pick colors that make you stand out from the background. Also, pick colors that don't make you look too sallow. Yellow and green can be risky.
Some men feel tempted to crop the top of the photo to conceal the receding hairline. Women are not fooled by that.
Don't hide behind objects, either. Men are not fooled by that.
If you misrepresent yourself in the photo on your profile, you can't hide what you look like when you finally meet. It could be very embarrassing to have your date excuse him or herself, especially after that horrified look of discovery.
Try to pose in a photo doing something that is natural to you. If you are not into skiing or body surfing, don't submit photos of yourself doing those activities. You might wind up dating a fanatic who does those activities too often for your taste.
Now, there is one topic that is very delicate and I am going to have to take you gentlemen aside and say this as gently as I can. If you are a heterosexual male, do not ever submit a photo of yourself nude, especially below the belt. Ever. Some shirtless photos can be fine in context, but be realistic about your physical condition.
Ladies, similar advice applies, but I want to layer on the issue of personal safety. Do you really want a stranger to rush you?
Another thing to remember is who is in the photo. Don't put photos of your minor children on the Internet. It is not safe for the kids. Your date can meet the kids later.
Avoid photos with attractive members of the appropriate sex. Even if she's your daughter, women are not going to know what to think when they see your fifty year old self with a hot 25 year old who might look like you.
Never ever put photos of yourself with your ex cropped out. It won't kill you to get some fresh photos taken.
Secondary photos can be fun. That's where you can have a photo of yourself with your dog, your Harley, your sunglasses and even a gorilla mask.
Photos of just your pets, your possessions or locations won't help your cause either. If you are afraid to show your face in public, most people will assume that the reason is that you really do have something to hide.
About the Author:
After ten years of dating, Kandice Skaggs finally met the man of her dreams online. After dating for more than one year, her and her fiancee decided to get married. Kandice suggests that you should set up a profile on as many websites as possible, because you never know where Mr. or Ms. Right might be hanging out online. For adult dating, one of her favorite sites was: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
Read more Articles written by Kandice Skaggs.
Copyright © 2009 Kandice Skaggs
Because so many people are using dating sites now, it is hard to stand out in a crowd.
You need to get the other viewers' attention in less than 10 seconds. You have to grab it. Because people are so visual, a photo is essential.
A photograph may be optional in order to set up a profile, but typing your life story is not going to get you anywhere if no one looks at your profile. If anything, you should have the photo up first, before anything else.
Most sites have an option where the people browsing profiles can check a box indicating they only want to see profiles with photos.
Just as in real life, first impressions count. Your primary photo should be taken in good lighting and really show your face. Take off the hat and sunglasses and don't stare into the sun. Look directly into the camera. Don't duck your head down or turn in profile.
Some people advise black and white photos. This can cover up some minor flaws in your complexion and make you look mysterious and intellectual. Black and white photos can fall flat if they are out of focus, however. Besides, most people prefer color photos.
Pick colors that make you stand out from the background. Also, pick colors that don't make you look too sallow. Yellow and green can be risky.
Some men feel tempted to crop the top of the photo to conceal the receding hairline. Women are not fooled by that.
Don't hide behind objects, either. Men are not fooled by that.
If you misrepresent yourself in the photo on your profile, you can't hide what you look like when you finally meet. It could be very embarrassing to have your date excuse him or herself, especially after that horrified look of discovery.
Try to pose in a photo doing something that is natural to you. If you are not into skiing or body surfing, don't submit photos of yourself doing those activities. You might wind up dating a fanatic who does those activities too often for your taste.
Now, there is one topic that is very delicate and I am going to have to take you gentlemen aside and say this as gently as I can. If you are a heterosexual male, do not ever submit a photo of yourself nude, especially below the belt. Ever. Some shirtless photos can be fine in context, but be realistic about your physical condition.
Ladies, similar advice applies, but I want to layer on the issue of personal safety. Do you really want a stranger to rush you?
Another thing to remember is who is in the photo. Don't put photos of your minor children on the Internet. It is not safe for the kids. Your date can meet the kids later.
Avoid photos with attractive members of the appropriate sex. Even if she's your daughter, women are not going to know what to think when they see your fifty year old self with a hot 25 year old who might look like you.
Never ever put photos of yourself with your ex cropped out. It won't kill you to get some fresh photos taken.
Secondary photos can be fun. That's where you can have a photo of yourself with your dog, your Harley, your sunglasses and even a gorilla mask.
Photos of just your pets, your possessions or locations won't help your cause either. If you are afraid to show your face in public, most people will assume that the reason is that you really do have something to hide.
About the Author:
After ten years of dating, Kandice Skaggs finally met the man of her dreams online. After dating for more than one year, her and her fiancee decided to get married. Kandice suggests that you should set up a profile on as many websites as possible, because you never know where Mr. or Ms. Right might be hanging out online. For adult dating, one of her favorite sites was: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
Read more Articles written by Kandice Skaggs.
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